Lost in age...
当你爱上对方时，应该会有这九种情感，才能算是一个真实的爱情，最起码，你应该扪心自问，将来是否有可能培养出这样的情感来，才能确保你拥有一个真的爱情。
1.生理上的性冲动： 当我们对一位异性产生兴趣或爱上某个异性时，希彼此有身体上的接触。在真实的爱情生活里，这种欲望是永远存在的。性冲动并不单单只是行为，它还包含了许多其它亲密的身体上接触，譬如牵手、拥抱等等，这种情感会永远都存在爱人的心里。
2.美丽的感觉： 在有爱情的时候，我们会觉得对方最好看，即使有别的异性比你所爱的对象好看，但对你而言，他（她）才是最好看的，而且是别人无法相比的。
3.亲爱的感觉：当你真正爱上一个人，你会有一种很亲切的感觉，他让你觉的很舒服，你可以信任他、依靠他。他像是一个亲密的家人，甚至可以说，比一个家人更亲密，这是亲密加上一种温馨的感觉，就是亲爱的感觉。在这爱情国度里，他不会挑剔你的瑕疵，因为他愿意包容你所有的缺点。
4.羡慕及尊敬的感觉：一个健康的爱情关系，应当有以对方为荣的感觉，我们会去欣赏对方内在和外在的条件和优点。而且对方也处处以我们为荣。如果我们能有这种感觉，不论他是成功或失败，都会使我们欣赏他的才华。
5.赞许的爱情：当相爱的时候，我们喜欢夸奖对方，而且不仅是欣赏而已，还喜欢对他人夸奖对方，从夸奖对方的热诚之中，我们可以因此感到无比的快乐。
6.受到尊重的自尊：一个健康的爱情关系，可以提高一个人的自尊心。让对感觉到活得更有价值，因为爱情使你觉得你有无人可比的独特性，虽然你有优点也有缺点，但是你的独特性使你受到无比的尊重，生命因此而有了价值。
7.占有欲：爱情是绝对独占的，不能与人分享亲密的男女关系。所以需要以结婚来持续一份爱情，在结婚时彼此相约相许。因此在真实爱情里，互相许诺忠诚是必要的。
8.行动自由：如果个人有正当的理由，他行动的自由一定要受到尊重，才不会破坏两人之间的爱情关系。
9.深重的同情心：我们对深爱的人常会有怜惜的感情，经常会为对方考虑，如果对方受到挫折，我们会非常愿意与他分担痛苦和挫折，把对方的苦当作自己的苦难一样，或者更胜于自己的苦难，因为我们愿意为对方而牺牲自己的利益哦~
Another random post. I think I used to like to read this kind of articles some years back. Looking back at the teenage years, I wonder if I would still love like a "fresh sheet of paper". Hmm...maybe I'm searching for that kind of feeling. It's always great to be young at heart and be ready to FALL FREELY in love I guess.
The night I get to know myself better.
Cherliz
it was really proper english
with an american accent
=P
;)
it was really good english
with some hard vocab that was usedMe
wow..crap!
OMG...i thought i would speak really bad english...all grammar mixed up n stuff :D LOL
Cherliz
hahahaha.... but u talk super lots...
non stop talking(now I know how much I actually love to talk although I can be extremely quiet sometimes)
So I asked how I was like when I got drunk. It was a historical moment because I never get to this stage. Some more I puked over 3 people. One on the hair, one at the back and another one don't know where. I've always thought I would speak bad English if I happen to be drunk but surprisingly, I didn't. I guess my teacher was right. If you need to learn one language which is not your mother tongue, you gotta encode it in your unconscious that even when you're dreaming, you dream in that language. I think I succeeded! WooHoo~ So that's maybe one of the nicer things which I think I know bout myself when I got drunk. So maybe, part of my collective unconscious, IS an American. I don't fake or act out the accent seriously. That's just how I speak although some people are really not used to it. It may not sound as friendly as Manglish (perhaps?)
Second thing. Now I seriously understand what they mean by "when a person is drunk, he/she will deny the fact that he/she IS drunk". In my case, I said something like
"I'm NOT drunk, but I think I'm drunk""Oh wait, I think I'm 50 50 drunk" (quoted Huey Ye: "CLASSIC")
I used to watch people get drunk and being carried away. I can't believe this day happens to me TOO. I even slept at the carpark at Huey Ye's home. They said I look so comfortable and reluctant to move. So the 4 "lucky" friends of mine circled me figuring what to do with me as a guy passed by. I think his monologue must be that I've always had when I see others get drunk.
Now, I really know how it's like to be drunk. REALLY. The memory stops after I get drunk. What happens after that was all extremely vague. When I woke up in the morning. The first thing that passes my mind was. "Gosh, I don't remember a thing after that scene. I must have been drunk!"
BINGO because I don't remember thanking everyone at the bar, I don't remember myself talking to the fat, dark bar manager, for more than 5 minutes, and that I sit by the roadside, mumbling non-stop, puked for 10 to 12 times etc.
I never knew I can actually puke because all these while as I never puke over alcoholic drinks, NOT even ONCE. And surprises me once I puke, it's 12 times. WOW!
One tricky thing is, my friends can't actually tell when I actually got drunk because even when I'm not drunk, I can look so "high". I love to take off my shoes and do crazy stuffs (even before I get drunk). So they end up thinking I was just being my normal self until I actually started vomitting. That's the only sign they can pick up.
They took video of me. They asked simple maths questions and my name and it seemed like I had no problem answering correctly. So maybe that's the sane part of me whilst drunk. Some of the few weird things that I said were "I'm ambitious" (gosh, not sure if I'll say that when I'm conscious) and "Sometimes, I need to be protected too" (well, maybe this is a manifestation of what I longed for). And I was protected, by my loyal friends. THANKFULLY I was with them. I could have been in deep trouble if I were not with the right company.
Nevertheless, I feel relieved. Now I know how it's like. Don't think I wana try it again. I'm glad my friends were really patient with me. True friends they are (they NEVER Imagine I would get drunk, SERIOUS) and handled me with care. Dropped me once though, and knocked my head. There's a small bun now and I asked Huey Ye after I finished bathing at her place. Discovered it while shampooing my hair.
I joked, as usual, that this is yet another "unvisited side" of me. Well. All ended up well. First time I get drunk, in my history 30th April, 2010. Aged 23 :D
UPDATE: Seong told me, the drunkard even gave them a lesson. She said, " Lesson, of the day, Don't overestimate yourself and drink more than you can take." @@
